Great story!
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I will say that your well being it’s more important then money. But you do you
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Luckily a serious but not so serious event forced me to take stock and stop in August 23. Initially I stopped completely but more recently have had a couple here and there occasionally,
Just weighed myself to find I’ve lost 14kg and that’s without any exercise except walking a bit.
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I agree and I will.
Sadly for some people I think it is beyond being affordable- hopefully this will improve.
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I hope so too
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dunno if this site will be much help but there’s a few articles, resources + data which any struggling freelancers on here might find useful
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the last 2/3 weeks have been pretty grim tbh. My missus is desperately worried about her cousins in Iran, she’s also going through a tough menopause and we’re both struggling for work. Music has taken a back seat sadly. There are worse places to be though and we found a nice remote wood and river you can swim in on Saturday. Wild picnics are the way forward this summer.
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I hear you and send our best to you both. It’s a time to draw your loved-ones close and try to find pleasure in moments of pause while keeping the bad stuff at arms-length.
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Perimenopause and menopause, I have found, is one of the most difficult stages of life to support your partner through. We, as men, genuinely have no basis for comparison and I find that I trip up a lot when I try to give support coming from a “walk it off, you’ll be fine” upbringing. I do know that being a woman is difficult, far more than a man. I don’t really know where I’m going with this but if you need to talk, I’m also supporting a partner going through that, and I don’t have any of the answers but I’m decent at listening don’t be shy to drop a line.
Throwing on the fear that the orange Nazi is going to start WW3 and use your wife’s family as cannon fodder is not easy either. I can’t imagine what that feels like. I work with a lot of Iranians, particularly at our Toronto location and they are genuinely lovely people.
Sorry you’re going through a tough time, hope those swims help.
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very true @Casual we don’t understand nearly enough about it. Hoping the HRT will help.
The Iran stuff is really emotional on multiple levels. eg Imagine having a UK passport and having a 2 week flight booked to LAX to see elderly parents but not being sure if you’ll be allowed in because it says ‘born in Tehran’. The current climate makes my blood boil tbh. Whilst I’ve also had grief there due to an out of date ESTA, I’ve never faced discrimination. She’s been hauled off planes before for extra security checks and my fear is it will be even worse now.
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Sorry to hear that. Can’t imagine what she has to deal with. Uncertainty is one of the big stressors to deal with. Sending 
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Sending the good vibes Oli. Heres to finding some peace. X
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I have a US passport and mine says under place of birth “South Africa” and the last two times I have been out of the country and back in, I have been stopped and asked how long I have been naturalized. And I am as legal as can be. I can’t imagine what it is like being from one of the banned nations. It makes my blood boil as well. This isn’t the country I emigrated to by a long shot.
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Best wishes to you and yours Oli, hoping the weeks ahead are bearable and you’re able find some moments of peace and respite x
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Does anyone else ever struggle with imposter syndrome in relation to music whether that be DJing or just the music and records you collect in general? It’s been on my mind a lot lately was just wondering if anyone else feels this way too
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Does everything in life count? 
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I agree with that 
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Also, ask yourself what type of people you respect: the alpha-types that are cock sure of themselves and incessantly tell you what’s what?Or those with a bit more self awareness (and associated self-doubt)? For me it’s the latter. So erring on the side of self reflection and questioning ourselves is probably no bad thing. Not that it always feels good to be playing from the defensive position.
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Yeah, this 
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I used to feel like a massive fraud writing on music forums (and sometimes still do). Either because the knowledge was intimidating or because the put-downs were. Looking back, I probably was a bit of a tit, trying too hard to fit in (we leave school, but school doesn’t leave us…) These days, I feel a lot easier in my own skin and there are no pretensions to anything. There’s nothing to prove to anyone (except sadly, employers…)
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DJing is the most difficult. I get hyper-fixated on the one person who looks like they aren’t enjoying it and then all of a sudden, in my mind, every record I have brought along is shit, etc. and I can’t wait to get out of there.
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